Chapter 9, Part 20

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
and shall obtain favor from the Lord.”
Proverbs 18:22

According to the Word, a wife is a good thing and brings favor from God. I have researched and I have found no such verse for a “baby’s momma”, girlfriend, or life partner. This bond is so complete to God that it is described as two people becoming one person in heart, mind, and spirit.[1] Two separate entities being brought together and made one. Marriage was provided from God to give a stable environment to raise children, so that children would know security and be given the knowledge of God. One of the main ingredients missing in the lives of our children today is security. Ask any child today what they fear and they will tell you they live in fear of the unknown. Children are afraid that their homes are going to be destroyed not by terrorist, but by divorce. A large part of that is the relative ease that homes are disintegrated today, we are living in a transient society. There is no longer a commitment to anything or anyone. Many today do not even bother to get married to raise children and those that do seem to have little commitment to the family. For those that do not know; God hates divorce![2] God has never desired for us to be divorced. If it were not for the hardness of man’s heart, God would have never allowed it.[3] We have turned divorce into a cottage industry. The animosity of many divorces today should convince anyone of why God has such a hatred for divorce. Children being torn from parents, turned against parents, and sometimes kidnapped from parents. You have parents using the custody of children as a weapon.

Why is divorce so common today? I believe one of the reasons is that we no longer go to God for our mates. Today so many of our young women are going out into the world (clubs, hangouts, etc.) looking for mates instead of going to God. In the black community, it is particularly disturbing because most mothers were not very successful in their choice of men and they pass that on to their daughters. Instead of teaching them to look for a man that will cherish, love, and provide for them, they are being shown to go for the man with the flashy smile, clothes, and the smooth line. Most, black women today claim to want a godly man, but when given the opportunity continue to pick the worldly man. He is more exciting, as if life were nothing more than an amusement park ride. People are choosing worldly qualities over Godly qualities. They are choosing the superficial over the deeper elements of a person’s character. Many would not know a good man if he were to walk up and slap them in the face.[4][5] There are many who marry and do not even know the religion of their mate or even if their mate is saved. The Bible is very clear on believers marrying unbelievers it is to be avoided.

“Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers,
But a prudent wife is from the Lord.”
Proverbs 19:14

I find it disturbing how many people will meet and marry people from the club, the streets, or now the internet and know absolutely nothing about the person. It is like the guy who marries a stripper and then gets mad when she takes her clothes off in front of other men. Hello, remember you were her favorite customer. Or, the woman who cheats with a man that she knows is with someone else and then can not believe when he cheats on her. What are people thinking these days?

Today, there is a growing and common attitude that it is better to be with anybody than to be alone. Due to our society promoting these self-gratification values, people no longer can wait on God. If you want a loving, perfect mate, pray to God and wait for God to give you him or her. Sometimes it takes so long for God to respond because you are not ready for what you are praying for. Sometimes we are not ready for the blessing that God has waiting to give us and God would not send us a blessing that will make our lives worse. He would rather you do without until you are ready to receive it. When was the promise land given to Israel? It was given to them before the beginning of time. So why did they have to spend forty years in the wilderness? Because they were not ready to receive the gift that God had already given them, their faith was weak. So, it is with many of us, we would not be able to love and cherish the blessing God has for us, because we have too much “worldliness” on us. For many of us we are just too selfish to be with anyone from God. Many of us only need to look at the gifts God has already bestowed on us; what have we done with those? God may be in the process of burning some of that worldliness off of you and preparing you for His blessing. Be patient, it is always to God’s glory that we are blessed. To show the world how awesome, powerful, and good the God we serve is.

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[1] Ibid.

[2] Malachi 2:16

[3] Matthew 19:9

[4] Figure of speech, I would never condone the use of violence against any woman.

[5] 1 Corinthians

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