Chapter 6 Part 2

Instead of your children being the priority, it is your selfish pleasure that rules you. These children did not ask to be put into these dysfunctional relationships, you chose by your choice of a partner and your behavior to bring them into these relationships. And once they are brought into these relationships, you ignore your children for your selfishness. Not everyone that can be a mother is a mother, just like not every man that can make a baby is a father. Some are just sperm donors. A mother’s first priority should be to her children, sadly today this is not always the case. Today the rule seems to be that it is all about the individual, the world revolves around me. The world promotes this selfish attitude through the mass media. Seek your own pleasure first, do not worry about the consequences. Well these consequences have names they are our children. God has something to say about these children that are so easily ignored.

“For their mother has played the harlot; She who conceived
them has behaved shamefully. For she said, ‘I will go after my
lovers, who give me my bread and my water, my wool
and my linen, my oil and my drink.”
Hosea 2:5

In order to gain selfish pleasure you have sought after sexual partners more than your God or even your children. In God’s perfect plan for relationships purity is vitally important. We are to seek after God and not the idols of selfishness and sexual pleasure. Children are a lot more aware than they are given credit and they know when they are being treated as an inconvenience. The behavior of our children demonstrates their hurt. Mothers it is time stop talking about what is right and start being about what is right. It is not enough to tell our children they are important we must begin to show them by our lifestyle choices their importance. Let me say that there are a lot of single, unwed mothers who are attempting to provide good and moral homes, but it is difficult to provide for their emotional and spiritual needs when you are working all the time.

As women, you should demand more for yourselves and your children than what you are receiving now. Our future as a people depends on the choices you make. The time to demand more for yourselves is not after you have given yourselves away, the other person already has gotten what they want. At that point you are just trying to hold on to some semblance of a relationship so you don’t feel like a complete fool. If you continue to choose selfishness over righteousness and allow yourselves to be misled, we will all suffer. These children will become not only burdens on our community, but also predators in our community. Our community is full of these little predators that are the products of these failed relationships and selfish life choices. Women look around you, this having babies without fathers is not working. You are not helping these children, you are instead sentencing them to a life of anger and frustration. I am not saying that you don't love your children, but without the right balance in their lives the odds are stacked against them. In this society, the deck is already stacked against us, why add to the misery. The right balance is the balance that God has prescribed, a man and a woman to raise children.

Unfortunately, it has been left to you to shoulder this burden of child rearing for now. Until God raises up more men who are ready and willing to take responsibility as men, you will be in this position. However, you can help yourselves by demanding the men you choose to lay down with to be responsible men and not just some guy with a good line and a cute smile. I would suggest that you give that area of your life to God and allow Him to bring you a Godly man. This will not happen though as long as you refuse to be patient and wait for God. For so long, you have been our stabilizers, overcoming incredible odds. You have kept the little righteousness that our communities have had through your attempts to support our churches. The men have left you to remain under the authority of God and training our children up in spiritual matters. By doing so, we have left the path that leads to life and exchanged it for the path that leads to destruction. The efforts of many single mothers are worthy of applause considering the incredible obstacles placed in front of you. However, for most of you these struggles in your paths are struggles based on decisions you have made. Because of your desire for love, intimacy, and a human relationship you have allowed your purity to be taken from you like a thief that comes in the night. Your purity is the purity of a people. Just as the men represent the strength of a people, so a woman represents the purity of a people. Guard it, for it is much more precious than you will ever realize. Its value is only understood after it is lost. It is your glory and your honor. From your purity you derive your respect as a woman. It will keep you when others around you have deserted you and lost theirs. I believe that if you only knew the power of staying pure there would be no power on earth that would be able to take it from you. I just ask those of you who have lost your purity to remember when you lost it and to whom, if you had the opportunity would you have done it differently? Give that testimony to all the young women you meet, let them know what it has cost you. The time for silence is over in the face of this epidemic. If this were some physical malady, we would be holding telethons, having marches and demonstrations, calling for the scientific community to come up with a cure. Well, this problem is more deadly than any physical disease it is a spiritual disease. Do not be fooled just because its victims are not instantly struck with a symptom that does not mean that it is not deadly. It kills the soul and damages the spirit. Moreover, it is killing more of our people every day.

Chapter 5 Part 4

“and in the wilderness where you saw how the LORD your God
carried you, as a man carries his son, in all the way that you
went until you came to this place.”
Deuteronomy 1:31

In God’s design, a man carries his son, not the other way around. A man is not only financially responsible, but also spiritually as well. It begins with the natural and then goes to the spiritual. The Bible says, “What man among you will give his son a stone when he ask for bread or a serpent when he ask for a fish?”[1] As we see a man is the provider of his family not a liability to his family. No man is to be a weight around his family’s neck. The apostle Paul wrote, “If anyone will not work, neither shall he eat.”[2] A man is to carry his own weight and if he has any dependents he should be taking care of them as well. Just as there is an epidemic of fornication, this has led to an epidemic in “deadbeat” dads. There is a reason they are called dependents, they are depending on you! At no time in the history of the world has there been this level of irresponsibility towards children. The main people who are supposed to be protecting them are the ones exploiting them. How that must feel to be cast off by the ones you rely on. Have we become so selfish and sinful that the cries of very own children fall on deaf ears? I pray that we have not.

“For the children ought not to lay up for the
parents, but the parents for the children.”
2 Corinthians 12:14

For the sake of our people, we as men should begin to resist the flesh. It is not about the women, it is about us men as the head of the women. It is about our being able to resist sin against God. In the Bible, there is the story of Joseph and the wife of an Egyptian officer in whose home he was living in and working. The wife attempted to seduce Joseph repeatedly to no avail. Imagine the constant temptation he was under, but he remained faithful to his God.

“There is no one greater in this house than I, nor has he kept back
anything from me, but you, because you are his wife. How can I do
this great wickedness, and sin against God?”
Genesis 39:9,23

Just as Joseph refused to defile himself with another man’s wife, so we should no longer continue to defile ourselves with fornication and adultery. For many believe that there is no price to pay for fornication, but I believe that if they take a closer look at their lives they will see broken dreams, broken promises, and broken lives. There must be a revival among us as men if we are to overcome this epidemic. Instead of teaching our sons to be pimps and players, we should be teaching them to be followers of God. We should stop expecting others to do what we ourselves should be doing. We as men have to lead for a change; we should sacrifice ourselves for the future. We have been selfish and spoiled for too long. We should begin to stress purification of not only our young women but our young men as well. Let us put the focus on education and spiritual growth over the sinfulness that has led our people to this place where we are today. We are up to our elbows in the fruits of sin, the fruits of fornication.

Because of his faithfulness, God was with Joseph and made him successful in everything he did. Faithfulness to God has more than an eternal reward it also provides earthly rewards. The success of our people as well as our individual success depends on our faithfulness to God. We should learn that until we overcome our sinful nature and selfish desires we will not be successful. Sounds like a simple thing, but experience has shown us that this is no easy order. Sin is a very formidable opponent it is cunning and powerful. It does not give up easily. We should understand that sin is more than what we do it is everything we are. It is what I think, what I desire, and what I think is right or wrong. Sin is such a deep and intricate part of what we are we cannot overcome it alone. Only through the power of Christ which dwells within us are we given the power to do this. It is only when we surrender and submit to God that we win and overcome this sinful nature.

I write these words from the love of my heart. I pray that enough of us will step up as men and heed the call of God to resurrect this people. Surely, there is enough of a remnant of God’s people to begin this monumental and long journey back to God and His righteousness.

“O, that they had such a heart in them that they would
fear me and always keep all my commandments,
that it might be well with them and with their children.”
Deuteronomy 5:29

I pray that God may give us a heart to fear Him once again, to follow His commandments. The Bible says if we do that, it will be good for both our children and ourselves. All good men of faith should come together to end this cycle of sin, to begin the process of rebuilding this people. It is no longer about how we got here but; what are we going to do to get out of here. Are we going to continue to point fingers at one another or are we going to lead this stiff-necked people back to God? The time for delay is over. If we do not come together and seek God, most of our men will either be dead or locked up. Most of our young women will be alone and pregnant or alone with a house full of babies.

“But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe
in me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone
were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in
the depths of the sea.”
Matthew 18:6

Do you not think that God will hold you accountable for leading His children astray? You may think that you are bulletproof, but God has something for you. People think they can sin without consequences. One of the first results of the “fall” in the Garden of Eden was guilt. They hid themselves from God. Do you think you will be any less guilty today? It is bad enough when you sin yourself but when you cause others to fall for your own selfish pleasures, there will be a price to pay. You get credit for those sins as well. Therefore, when you are running your little game and leading those young women astray know that God is watching. The pleasures of sin do not last long.

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[1] Matthew 7:9,10

[2] 2 Thessalonians 3:10