Chapter 6 Part 2

Instead of your children being the priority, it is your selfish pleasure that rules you. These children did not ask to be put into these dysfunctional relationships, you chose by your choice of a partner and your behavior to bring them into these relationships. And once they are brought into these relationships, you ignore your children for your selfishness. Not everyone that can be a mother is a mother, just like not every man that can make a baby is a father. Some are just sperm donors. A mother’s first priority should be to her children, sadly today this is not always the case. Today the rule seems to be that it is all about the individual, the world revolves around me. The world promotes this selfish attitude through the mass media. Seek your own pleasure first, do not worry about the consequences. Well these consequences have names they are our children. God has something to say about these children that are so easily ignored.

“For their mother has played the harlot; She who conceived
them has behaved shamefully. For she said, ‘I will go after my
lovers, who give me my bread and my water, my wool
and my linen, my oil and my drink.”
Hosea 2:5

In order to gain selfish pleasure you have sought after sexual partners more than your God or even your children. In God’s perfect plan for relationships purity is vitally important. We are to seek after God and not the idols of selfishness and sexual pleasure. Children are a lot more aware than they are given credit and they know when they are being treated as an inconvenience. The behavior of our children demonstrates their hurt. Mothers it is time stop talking about what is right and start being about what is right. It is not enough to tell our children they are important we must begin to show them by our lifestyle choices their importance. Let me say that there are a lot of single, unwed mothers who are attempting to provide good and moral homes, but it is difficult to provide for their emotional and spiritual needs when you are working all the time.

As women, you should demand more for yourselves and your children than what you are receiving now. Our future as a people depends on the choices you make. The time to demand more for yourselves is not after you have given yourselves away, the other person already has gotten what they want. At that point you are just trying to hold on to some semblance of a relationship so you don’t feel like a complete fool. If you continue to choose selfishness over righteousness and allow yourselves to be misled, we will all suffer. These children will become not only burdens on our community, but also predators in our community. Our community is full of these little predators that are the products of these failed relationships and selfish life choices. Women look around you, this having babies without fathers is not working. You are not helping these children, you are instead sentencing them to a life of anger and frustration. I am not saying that you don't love your children, but without the right balance in their lives the odds are stacked against them. In this society, the deck is already stacked against us, why add to the misery. The right balance is the balance that God has prescribed, a man and a woman to raise children.

Unfortunately, it has been left to you to shoulder this burden of child rearing for now. Until God raises up more men who are ready and willing to take responsibility as men, you will be in this position. However, you can help yourselves by demanding the men you choose to lay down with to be responsible men and not just some guy with a good line and a cute smile. I would suggest that you give that area of your life to God and allow Him to bring you a Godly man. This will not happen though as long as you refuse to be patient and wait for God. For so long, you have been our stabilizers, overcoming incredible odds. You have kept the little righteousness that our communities have had through your attempts to support our churches. The men have left you to remain under the authority of God and training our children up in spiritual matters. By doing so, we have left the path that leads to life and exchanged it for the path that leads to destruction. The efforts of many single mothers are worthy of applause considering the incredible obstacles placed in front of you. However, for most of you these struggles in your paths are struggles based on decisions you have made. Because of your desire for love, intimacy, and a human relationship you have allowed your purity to be taken from you like a thief that comes in the night. Your purity is the purity of a people. Just as the men represent the strength of a people, so a woman represents the purity of a people. Guard it, for it is much more precious than you will ever realize. Its value is only understood after it is lost. It is your glory and your honor. From your purity you derive your respect as a woman. It will keep you when others around you have deserted you and lost theirs. I believe that if you only knew the power of staying pure there would be no power on earth that would be able to take it from you. I just ask those of you who have lost your purity to remember when you lost it and to whom, if you had the opportunity would you have done it differently? Give that testimony to all the young women you meet, let them know what it has cost you. The time for silence is over in the face of this epidemic. If this were some physical malady, we would be holding telethons, having marches and demonstrations, calling for the scientific community to come up with a cure. Well, this problem is more deadly than any physical disease it is a spiritual disease. Do not be fooled just because its victims are not instantly struck with a symptom that does not mean that it is not deadly. It kills the soul and damages the spirit. Moreover, it is killing more of our people every day.