Chapter 2 Part 1 What Does God Say About It

What Does God Say About It


“Marriage is honorable for all, and the bed undefiled;
but fornicators and adulterers God will judge”.
Hebrews 13:4

It is God’s wish that those who cannot refrain from sex be at least married. That it is honorable and good. According to God there is no free sex or sex between consenting adults without commitment and marriage. Whenever two people have sex, the bible says that they become one flesh. I give her a part of myself and she gives me a part of herself. I think back on all the times I attempted to have “free sex” and afterwards there was always the desire to have more from one party or the other. There were always complications. In addition, do not let it have been good. I do not know how many of my affairs began as “casual sex”. I dare to venture that a great many marriages have been based on this same attitude. The terms “free sex”, “casual sex”, and “uncommitted sex” are not apart of God’s healthy plan for sexual pleasure for our lives. The laws of God were never designed to punish us, but to protect us. God’s laws concerning sexual misconduct were designed to prevent the spreading of disease, to promote the harmony and stability of the family, and the society as a whole. We have perverted the natural use of our bodies and the lovingkindness of God’s laws. We have elevated our own selfish pleasure over the authority of God. We know better than God what is best for us. So then, are we still under the laws of God? Some may argue we are under grace and not bound by the law. Some would say that God gave us sex to enjoy and that we do not have to follow those antiquated laws. Some would argue that since we no longer sacrifice animals those old rules do not apply. Let us see what Jesus Christ says.

“Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets.
I did not come to destroy but to fulfill.”
Matthew 5:17

Paul states that even though we are under grace we are still not to be fornicators or have sexual immorality. That it is in fact the will of God not to be partakers of such behavior, nor are we to hang out with such people. God desires that we pursue holiness. God calls us to avoid fornication. It is only by submitting and surrendering to God that we are able to overcome sin. The bible says that fornicators will have no inheritance in the kingdom of God. God takes fornication very seriously for a number of reasons that we will discuss in the next chapter.

“because it is written, ‘Be holy, for I am holy.’”
1 Peter 1:16

“For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person,
nor covetous Man, who is an idolater, has any
inheritance in the kingdom Of Christ and God.”
Ephesians 5:5

Fornication replaces God’s healthy sexual plan for our lives with our own selfish unhealthy plan. I do not want anyone to think that I am advocating that we should not enjoy the God given pleasures of a healthy sexual relationship in God’s plan. God gave us this pleasure for a reason. If it were not there, I believe that men would stick with men and women would stick with women. I say this not in any sexual sense, but in a purely common sense way. Let us face it we do not share a lot in common. The things that men like to do most women do not and vice-versa. If we are honest with each other there are very few things, we enjoy together. This is not to say that there are not a lot of loving and caring male/female relationships where they share common interests, but as a whole men enjoy the company of men and women the company of women. It is not a right or wrong or good or bad thing, but merely a fact of nature. The way things are. If it were not for the “spark that God has given us for each other, I would venture to say that we would not have been as fruitful and multiplied to the place we are today. In the bible, God says He will put enmity between the male and female. However, by His grace and tender mercy, He has also left that attraction between us. That in spite of our seemingly total lack of commonality, we can still come together and procreate. If you think about it, it is amazing there are still people on the earth. The truth be told we are from two different worlds it seems at times. The point being that God wants us to enjoy our sexuality in a healthy and positive way. The problem with fornication is that it perverts God’s healthy plan. The bible says be content with the wife of your youth. With fornication, I not only do not have a wife of my youth, I am not content with any woman I am with. I lay down with multiple partners and have no commitment to anyone.