Chapter 6 Part 6

“You lust and have not, You murder and covet and cannot obtain,
You fight and war, yet you have not because you ask not.
You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that
You may spend it on your pleasures.”
James 4:2,3

You seek after the world’s glory and not the glory of God. First, you do not ask God for what you need because of your own selfish plans. You know better than God does what is best for you. Well, if you know so much, why are you sitting there with a house full of kids and never been married? You have never even been engaged to be married for real. Stay home and come out of the clubs. When you are ready for a man, God will send you one. You need to be purified by God first. God has to remove your worldliness that you have become so proud of. God tells us we need patience, but we live in the microwave generation. We go to restaurants with a drive-thru, we order at one window and seconds later we have our food at the next window. We can now cook meals in the microwave in minutes instead of hours. We expect God to operate in this same fashion. We want God to work on our time and not the other way around. When I pray for things, God answers my prayers in three ways: yes, no, and wait. The hardest answer for me is wait. God tell me yes or no, just tell me something. The wait I cannot take, so I come up with my own backup plans. These plans will not come to pass with any success because they are based in my own selfish desires. How many times have we seen a person we thought was our “soul mate” only to find out later they appeared more like the devil incarnate. Trust in God and He will lead you where you need to be.[1]

Young women guard your purity and innocence as though it were gold. No matter what the world says, it is important for all of us to stay pure. You will be blessed by God if you do. If anyone is pressing you to lose that purity, then he is not from God. God will never go against His own Word. God has a beautiful plan for your lives if you only have patience and believe. You are our future; we need you to stand strong for all of us. It does not matter that your mother, your grandmother, or even your friends may be fornicating, you do not have to. If you are not married, focus on your heavenly Father and His will for your life. Once you open the door to carnal lust, it is very difficult to close it. The Bible says, “that the only temptation we face are those created by the desires from our own past experiences.” In other words to someone who has never tasted ice cream to be tempted by ice cream would mean little to them. As the saying goes you cannot miss what you have never had. The temptation would be for someone who has already tasted it and depending on their like or dislike of it would determine the level of temptation. So in the partaking of it lies the temptation.

“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own
desires and enticed, then when desire has conceived, it gives
birth to sin, and sin when it is full grown, brings forth death.”
James 1:14,15

So by surrendering to the world, instead of surrendering to God you bring death on yourself and shame to your family. O my little children if you only knew how much your heavenly Father loves you and how much this sinful life we are leading is hurting Him. We should learn to control our sinful desires through Him who has overcome death and sin, Christ Jesus. If we would only cry out to Him and repent of our selfishness and sinfulness. Why do we continue in sin that grace may abound? Why do we remain in our pain and suffering?

If you have already fallen, do not continue to practice the same sin that has already bound you. Stop; come back home to your heavenly Father, He is waiting with open arms. He will cleanse you of your unrighteousness.[2] But we must not continue in sin. Focus on your family and not the foolish lust that you have already fallen into. We must begin to break this cycle of sinfulness through a change in our character. Seek God while He may be found.[3] Have we not sinned enough already? We must pray for a change in our minds and our hearts, no longer choosing to live in the flesh and thereby dying in the flesh. Instead of walking in the lust of men, we should be pursuing the will of God.

“For we have spent enough of our past lifetime in doing the will of the
Gentiles-when we walked in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries,
drinking parties, and abominable idolatries. In regard to these they
think it strange that you do not run with them in the same flood
of dissipation, speaking evil of you.”
1 Peter 4:3,4

It is time to walk in the light, come out of the darkness. Your soul cries out for a change, you have had enough. Only you and God knows what you have done, but you know you have had enough. It is not going to be easy to stop but we must. It is the way of death and destruction not only for you but also for the children. The world will talk about you, the old girlfriends will talk about you, and those sorry men who have been laying around you will talk about you. But you must endure until the end, for in the end lies the promise of God. It is better to go to heaven alone than to go to hell with the crowd. No one said following God would be easy, in fact Christ said just the opposite.

[1] Proverbs 3:5,6

[2] 1 John 1:9

[3] Isaiah 55:6