Chapter 4 Part 3

Therefore, God can and does use anyone to prosper His people and to continue His divine plan. However, in order for that to happen, we must submit to His will and not ours. We must follow His perfect plan and not our imperfect ones. We must cooperate with the Hole Spirit. God will never impose His will in our lives. I have often said, "God loves me so much, He will allow me to kill myself." God has given us His “plan A”, but for some reason we must use our inferior “plan B”. This one requires God to initial here, here, and sign at the bottom. This is the plan we came up with while waiting on God’s perfect “plan A”. This is the plan that we devised when God seemed too busy or when we did not want to turn some area of our lives over to Him. God made us sexual beings and God wants us to enjoy it, but like everything else in His creation within the boundaries of His perfect love and will for us.

For those of us who have been married, marriage is a difficult proposition. It has it‘s moments of pure bliss, mixed with moments of what seems like pure hell. Into this mix, we incorporate habits of the male role model being around the house infrequently and under dubious conditions. The man, the supposed head of the household according to God’s hierarchy could not even be in the house. We wonder why our men do not know how to be husbands and fathers. How can we?

In this already explosive atmosphere, we add the blossoming women’s liberation movement with its calls for freedom for women. At this time, I want to acknowledge that for the first 200 years of our country’s history the white male has had a monopoly on opportunity. Anyone who was not white and male was excluded from any and all opportunities. Saying all this, the women’s liberation movement had some appeal with its cries of freedom. The problem occurred when they began to tell women that they did not need a man. I am all for equal pay for equal work for everyone, but it goes against God’s Word to proclaim that we do not need each other. The women’s movement even went so far as to compare their struggle with the plight of the black people. This only gave it more creditability in the eyes of some. I wonder though how can the mistress of the house compare her position with the slave? No matter how difficult their situation may have been I have not heard of many stories where the mistress of the house made a decision to exchange places with the slaves. One writer explains in the following way:

“Part of the overwhelming frustration black women felt within the Women's Movement was at white feminists' unwillingness to admit to their racism. This unwillingness comes from the sentiment that those who are oppressed can not oppress others. White women, who were (and still are) without question sexually oppressed by white men, believed that because of this oppression they were unable to assume the dominant role in the perpetuation of white racism; however, they have absorbed, supported and advocated racist ideology and have acted individually as racist oppressors. Traditionally, women's sphere of influence has extended over the home, and it is no coincidence that in 1963, seven times as many women of color (of whom 90 percent were black) as white women were employed as private household workers. It has been the tendency of white feminists to see men as the "enemy," rather than themselves, as part of the patriarchal, racist, and classist society in which we all live.

Not only did some white feminists refuse to acknowledge their ability to oppress women of color, some claimed that white women had always been anti-racist. Adrienne Rich claims, "our white foresisters have ... often [defied] patriarchy ... not on their own behalf but for the sake of black men, women, and children. We have a strong anti-racist female tradition;" however, as Bell-Hooks points out "[t]here is little historical evidence to document Rich's assertion that white women as a collective group or white women's rights advocates are part of an anti-racist tradition." Every women's movement in the United States has been built on a racist foundation: women's suffrage for white women, the abolition of slavery for the fortification of white society, the temperance movement for the moral uplifting of white society. None of these movements was for black liberation or racial equality; rather, they sprang from a desire to strengthen white society's morals or to uplift the place of white women in that society.”

“It is not good for the man to be alone. I
will make a helper suitable for him.”
Genesis 2:18 NIV

Therefore, it was always God’s plan for men to need women and women to need men. We were placed here to be helpers for each other, not hindrances. So here, we have the intentional emasculation of the black man through racism mingled with the call of the women’s liberation movement, “What can a man do for me?” The women’s movement saw the man as the enemy through sexual discrimination, yet overlooked the inherent racial discrimination of the participants. That through the policies many supported to overcome poverty they were actually destroying the black family unit. This left the black man with few if any options.

“Your desire shall be for your husband,
And he shall rule over you.”
Genesis 3:16

It is only by the grace of God that we have been given this desire for one another. I would not for a moment overlook the pleasures and the joy that God has given us in a healthy sexual relationship between married couples. We have perverted this relationship by making sex and our own selfish pleasures our God. We should ask ourselves what is our desire when we participate in fornication. Is it a desire to please God or to please man? God has created a hierarchy for His understanding not mine. When I surrender to God, I lose my justification for asking why. Why is this happening to me Lord or why is the world setup in this way? It is not for me to question, it is only for me to do. Many times some modern Christians believe that God needs their belief and understanding to do His will. God does not require my belief! It does not matter whether I believe in God because God believes in me. We should always remember that we were created for God. God was not created for us.

“For who has known the mind of the LORD?
Or who has become His counselor?”
Romans 11:34