Chapter 5 Part 2

We have left the most important job God has given us to our women. A mans first job is to save his home. How can we save our homes? Homes implies family, we do not create families. We do not create homes we destroy them. We do not exalt our women we tear them down. We destroy homes by taking our young women from their homes with false lies and then leaving them after our fornication to raise our children. We steal their innocence and purity and leave them with nothing. From the looks of our communities children are not a blessing from the Lord, but more of an obstacle to the game. What game you ask? The game of how many women we can get to have sex with us. For many of our men the measure of our manhood is the number of sexual conquest we have. There is only one problem; children are being created. It is amazing with all this fornicating going on no one has considered condoms. Do not get me wrong fornicating is fornicating and is still considered a sin with or without a condom, with or without a child being produced. However, consider the lives we are needlessly destroying. We expect our women not only raise the children but to provide for their spiritual training as well. A job God has clearly assigned to the man. How long will we continue to try to mock God?

“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for
whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who
sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but
he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life.”
Galatians 6:7,8

We as humans are notorious for laying claim to those things we do not possess. We tell ourselves we are not so bad or evil men, so were in no danger of the wrath of God. The Bible plainly states we will all reap the wrath of God. The men of my generation have been sowing to our flesh for a long time.

There was a man who received two puppies. He named the first one flesh and the second one spirit. The man fed the puppy named flesh twice as much food as spirit and plus gave him all the scraps from the table. As they grew and matured, which puppy do you think will get larger? I would venture to guess the puppy named flesh. It is a physiological fact. That is what we have been doing, feeding our flesh man twice as much as our spiritual man. How do I feed my flesh man you ask? Simply by feeding my fleshly desires; fornication, pornography, drugs/alcohol, strip clubs, etc. You get the picture. How do I feed the spiritual man? Through fellowship with God and obeying of God’s word is how my spirit is fed. There is a war going on inside of us between our flesh man and our spirit man, it is as old as time. Right now, for most of us, our flesh man is “swoll” and our spiritual man is puny. When temptation comes along, we are not able to stand because the flesh man overrides the spirit man. Christ Jesus warned His disciples in the garden, “Watch and pray lest you fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” The flesh has been ruling our lives for too long. The Bible tells us we as a nation, we as a people will reap what we sow. We have sown the seeds of fornication and now we are reaping the fruits of it.

“They shall repay you for your lewdness, and you shall pay
for your idolatrous sins. Then you shall know
that I am the LORD God.”
Ezekiel 23:49

Because of our lewdness, God will judge us. The Lord wants to use us to show the world what can happen, if a people will repent of their sins and return to God. He wants to demonstrate His great mercy and forgiveness. Conversely, He will demonstrate what happens when they do not. There have been too many victims in this epidemic. The Lord is patient towards us, but His patience will not endure forever. It is time for us as Black men to grow up; the time for foolishness is over. How can we continue to demand that the world treat us as men while we behave as little children? Because we have left the authority of God, He is giving us up to our wickedness. For too long we have denied the hurt and pain we have inflicted on others through our fornication, taking the innocence and purity of our people with no regard to the outcome.

I hear men all the time say, “It’s the woman’s fault. We would not be fornicating if it was not for the women.” Not only is this cowardice, the Bible completely disagrees. The Bible says that the woman is the weaker vessel. We as men should step up and accept our responsibility to our communities. We will never be taken seriously by the world until we learn to control our behavior. In Proverbs it says, “That a man with no self-control is like a city without walls .” He cannot defend himself or anyone else. It is sad but even our Black brothers from around the world have lost respect for us. They see us as spoiled little children. The legacy we have given our children is full of sinfulness. As men our responsibility, is to teach the ways of God and to train them in God’s Word and ordinances. We have not done that. Instead of teaching them righteousness, we have taught them lawlessness. Can we now be surprised by the current state of life? I am not!

“For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud,
blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving,
unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good,
traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers
of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from
such people turn away! For this sort are those who creep into
households and make captives of gullible women loaded down
with sins, led away by various lusts.”
2 Timothy 3:2-6

Wow, do any of these traits sound familiar to anyone? This I believe concisely encapsulates our current state of affairs. The part that sticks out for me is the part about gullible women. We have men in our communities that make a living off the checks that some women get monthly. They only visit these women once a month when their checks arrive. Or they will do the same to women who are working regular jobs, only coming around on payday. These men do not give a second thought that the woman’s children and usually that man’s children also, will be struggling for the rest of the month. They concern themselves only with their own greed and desires. This is not the behavior of men, but of greedy, selfish children. The world revolves around me. These same women are supposed to be looking out for the welfare of these broken children, more on this later. These men have made captives of these households and loaded these women down with sins. The fruit of these sins are the children. The same children they chose to rob. How long will we rob our most precious resource and not expect a backlash. We also rob them in our lack of financial support. Those of you, who think you are better than the monthly check pimps are, think about how much support you are providing your children.

Here is the insanity of it all those men who do remain after the “blessed event” rather than teaching their sons not to repeat their mistakes, they teach them the exact same behavior. “I’m raising a playa”, they exclaim. No, you are raising another irresponsible fornicator like yourself! Children come to us as empty vessels from God; it is up to us to fill those vessels. It is as if their minds are new little computers that need to be programmed. In the computer business there is a saying, “Garbage in, garbage out.” In other words, whatever you program in; that is what is going to come out. If I input wisdom, the child will be wise. Look at how we dress our littlest children; we buy them designer clothes and shoes. Not for their sakes are we buying these things, but to impress the world. We think it is more important to put them in FUBU than to put God’s word in them. It is more important what is on the outside of our children than what is on the inside. The Bible says, “They love the praise of men more than the praise of God.” Wisdom is to be sought after as if it were gold according to the Scriptures. It is to be taught by the elders. Wisdom is suppose to come with the passing of time, the older one gets the more wisdom one should acquire. The only problem we have is that some of older men are just as foolish, if not more foolish than our young men. Their many years instead of providing wisdom, has only provided a multitude of sins. O my people how long will we continue to forsake the Lord? How long will we ignore His Word and commandments?

“that the older man be sober, reverent, temperate,
sound in faith, in love, in patience…Likewise,
exhort the young men to be sober-minded.”
Titus 2:2,6

As we can see, according to the word of God, teaching of doctrine comes from the older men and women. How many of us can say we are even living the doctrine, let alone passing this information on to our children? We have too many babies raising babies for any wisdom to be imparted. What are we teaching our children to create this epidemic? What message are we sending that it is ok to go out and fornicate and create all these fatherless children? See their use to be a word for these children when we were growing up, it was called a “bastard child”. Of course, that has been replaced these days by some new sanitized term (baby’s momma or baby’s daddy). I believe that it is time to send some new messages. These messages are not in words alone, but also in deeds. We need to begin to change our behavior and character. The Bible tells us that those who do not train or discipline their children do not love their children. Due to our humanistic response to child abuse, physically disciplining children is no longer allowed. Were there being children abused? Yes. Are there children being abused today? Yes. There will always be a small segment of the population that will misinterpret God’s laws. Then of course, there will always be some sick people who are hurting and act out that hurt by hurting others. However, does this give us the right to ignore or reinterpret God’s Word? I think not! Under no circumstances are we to cancel what God has clearly revealed to us. We can never believe that we know better than God what is right for others and ourselves. We must never replace God’s wisdom with the wisdom of man, no matter how many degrees they have. Instead of following God, we are choosing to follow the world. The Bible says that following the world leads to destruction. The Proverbs tells us that “there is a way which seems right to a man, but the end of it is death.” To not physically discipline, your child seems right by today’s standards, but the Bible says I am sending that child to hell and that I in fact do not love that child.

“You shall teach them to your children, speaking of
them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way,
when you lie down and when you wake up.”
Deuteronomy 11:19

As you can see our jobs as men is not only to teach our children the ways of God, but to strangers and also ourselves. We are to not only speak them, but also live them in our homes. How can we teach our children what we do not know or do not practice? It is written that we should not only be hearers of the Word, but doers of the Word as well. We should be streams of living water to our wives and our children; instead, we are cesspools of sin. Our fornication has blinded us to the truth about God. We have been blinded to our true purposes as men. Anybody can make a child; it takes a man to raise one. As we go, our people go. Our people will never climb any higher than we as men climb. Up until now, we have let our women and children down. Rather than sacrifice our selfish lusts, we have sold out the very people who counted on us to protect them.

Instead of protecting our women and children, we have preyed on them. It is no wonder our women are not treated with the respect they deserve. A lot of them have little or no self-esteem thanks to us. Our treatment of them is a direct cause of this epidemic of fornication. In an effort to find, acceptance and love they have allowed themselves to become deluded into accepting any semblance of love, no matter how perverted. In addition, we have orchestrated this wickedness for our own selfish purposes.